Tim Wu, The Problem with Easy Technology
Great article on net neutrality by Dr. Drang:
The problem of paying for my stuff being delivered on your infrastructure was solved long ago by that high tech industry of the 19th century, the railroads. There are many railroads in the U.S., and they own and run the tracks in their domains. To deliver goods from one part of the country to another, they have to work together to hand off goods at their boundaries and arrange scheduling and fair payment. This is the original “last mile” problem.
Which is pretty much the Internet in a nutshell, isn’t it? Exposed to the entire spectrum of human enthusiasms, it’s basically impossible not to judge. Our empathy overloads and gives up and we sit, staring at the screen aghast, that somebody, somewhere might actually believe that what they’re doing is OK, is acceptable, is even appropriate.
Everybody is somebody else’s monster.
Saw a “WhatsApp expiring” banner ad on Time, clicked on it, and got this nonsense. Sometimes people suck.
Coffee and books. Foodbarn Bakery & Deli, Cape Town.
Oliver Burkeman, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking
Life decisions are never one-dimensional. Yet we often simplify the decisions others make to squash it into a context that’s easy to understand, because human nature. The problem is that trying to make other peoples’ decisions fit into our own neatly-defined boxes of understanding leads to something that’s poisonous for the soul: judgment.
We hear about someone’s decision to quit their job, or move somewhere, or marry someone, or drink tea instead of coffee, and we judge. Oh, how we judge. I do it too. You know why? Because judging is so much easier than understanding. To judge someone all you need to do is ignore the complexity of their situation. But understanding takes time. It means we have to listen, get context, step out of our own world views. That’s a lot of work.
I write about this because our family recently decided to move to Portland, OR. Our plane leaves South Africa on March 30th. It’s easy to look into our lives from the outside and see the decision as centering around one specific issue. I hear words like career, quitting, finances, family, different values. But here’s the truth: It’s all of these things, and none of them. We didn’t make this decision lightly. It wasn’t rash, and it wasn’t based on a single factor. We don’t hate South Africa. Our moving isn’t some perverted statement or value judgement on those who choose to live here. We love Cape Town and have an amazing community here — one that we hope will remain in place forever.
We’re moving to Portland because when we step back from our lives and look at all the factors that make us a family, we’re convinced that it’s what we need to do.
That’s all there is to it, and of course that’s not a long enough paragraph to explain the complexity adequately, but I doubt any paragraph would be long enough to accomplish that. The simple fact is that most of us are the same people. We’re all just pilgrims in a strange land1, trying to do the best we can. So the next time someone does something you think is really stupid — pause. Ask yourself if you really understand the complexity of their situation. And if not, you owe it to yourself (and to them) to take the time and really listen.
Understanding is much harder than judgment. But doing hard things is the only way we grow.
Hebrews 11:8-9 ↩
Misty run on Flickr.
Portland skyline on Flickr.
This chart from my contact page is making the rounds, and having the opposite effect of actually generating more crazy emails.
I take way too many photos of coffee. But I have to admit, this one is a favorite.
Highlighted by Rian van der Merwe in Smarter Than You Think: How Technology is Changing Our Minds for the Better by Clive Thompson